Yesterday, I got headache without the real reason. I checked out with my plan and found out that I was far behind the schedule. I thought this may be the cause of my illness. It was not serious but it makes me feel uncomfortable. Then, I thought about the past event which I felt similarly. I think it must have been because of the fear. I had strong feeling of the fear. This fear of failure really bothered me. Then, I picked up the phone and talked to a friend of mine.

This friend gave me some comments on the fear. His explanation was that human had fear especially for the upcoming events because some of the factors were not congruent. The factors include:

1 The intelligence

This is his higher level of conscious mind which has set up the good goal and want to achieve it. This is a good voice in your head and mainly leads you to do the right things.

2 The normal mind

People have a lot of reasons to do things and not doing things. They change the way they think and do according to the situation. Normally, this part of the mind is control by your belief and past experience.

3 The subconscious mind

This is what hides behind your conscious mind. You don’t know what it thinks but it shows in your guts and feeling.

4 The behavior

This is what you do. The three parts of your mind make you do things the way they want.

When one or two of the above factors are not congruent, you will feel uncertain. You will have fear although you tried to think that you are certain to get good result. Your mind can tell if you are lying or you are really going to get what you want.

Here is how you are going to win the fear. You will need solid goals. You will have to be sure in what you want. If your goals are not clear, you will have fear. Set up SMART goals and then develop good plan. If you have both and you are sure about your path, you can eliminate the fear.

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